The Rebbe's Advice #978 - Shidduch Requires Objectivity

Posted Sunday, Aug 19 2012 8:36pm in Chabad News, Rebbe's Advice

In memory of Rabbi Gavriel & Rebbetzin Rivkah Holtzberg HYD - Shluchim to Mumbai, India*

A shidduch requires objectivity. She isn’t objective because she’s met him many times and has feelings for him. Therefore let her move, for now, to Eretz Yisrael where she’ll gain the necessary objectivity to make her decision.

p. 220 Igros Kodesh Volume 29
^{Compiled by Rabbi Chaim Dalfin}

*As a practical matter, since each person’s circumstances are always different, one must use the guidance above as general instruction. The exact application at any given time must be discussed with a competent rabbi, or/and a counselor of Torah, a Mashpia.